So, you’ve recently had your heart broken or are coming to terms with pulling the plug on a defunct relationship. Break-ups are always a little messy, but that doesn't mean you have to crawl under a quilt and shut out the world. Believe it or not, you can make that break-up work for you! Here’s how to get your groove back…
1. Lose weight. You don’t even have to try very hard. The miraculous thing about break-ups is that somehow you start shedding those extra pounds automatically. (It might have something to do with losing your appetite but let’s not get into morbid details). So, jump at the opportunity to go from a size 10 to size 8 or even 6. And then grin at the mirror when those couture dresses start looking like they were made for you.
2. Learn the warning signs by heart. Embrace your sudden Zen-like awareness about exactly what you don’t want in a man. For example now you know that you must scoot the minute your date speaks rudely to the waiter or tries to suggest that nice girls don’t drink in public. Write up your warning signs in red marker pen with the title ‘When To Run!’ and tape that piece of paper to your desk so you never, ever let lust blind you again.
3. Start catching up with your real friends again. Go watch a chick flick. Have a ‘Sex And The City’ marathon viewing session at home and multiply the fun by dressing up like the characters. Plan a wild girl’s night out. Put on your best LBD. Better still, go out and buy a new one (in your brand new size, remember?) And watch those jaws drop as your strut your stuff with your BFFs in tow.
4. In fact, go on a mad shopping spree. Now that you have some extra dough, since you don’t have to buy stupid, expensive gifts for your guy anymore, loosen those purse strings a little. Buy those vertigo-inducing Steve Madden heels, dare to wear a backless Wendell Rodricks number and yes, go ahead and splurge on a criminally expensive bag or jewellery. Do it. Nothing like retail therapy to soothe a bruised soul.
5. The Single. Best. Thing.about a break-up is that you are now allowed to flirt with other people. Trust me, there is no better upside to this otherwise rather unfortunate situation. And in case you’ve forgotten your biology, flirting releases pheromones – which are hormones that make you look and feel like a million bucks. Now, how can that not be good for you?
6. Now that you have a lot more free time because you are not wasting precious hours pandering to an ego, make the most of it. Do whatever it is you always wanted to do but couldn't make time for. Join that Zumba class, learn to bake, take a robotics course if that interests you - whatever it is that lights your fire. Light it.
7. Kick some serious ass at work. Now is the time to focus all your energy (not to mention pent-up frustration and anger) into your profession. Work like a woman possessed and zoom up that corporate ladder. And always remember to dress for the job you want, not the job you have. So if you envision a Head of Department dressing in sharp business suits and wedged pumps, dress like that, even if you are a trainee. People will notice.
8. Get a sassy new haircut. Sounds trivial but it can add dollops of confidence to your personality. Especially something drastically different to what you've always worn. Go really short if you have the courage. Or get a bold red streak added to your colour, perhaps even blue if you’re the type to push the envelope. You'll feel like a new person.
9. Treat yourself to the gift you always wanted but never received because he was either too thick or too inconsiderate or too cheap to catch onto your hints! Whatever it may be – a day of pampering at the spa to diving with sharks in South Africa – now is the time to do it. Because a few months down the line you may be with someone new, and he too may not be that fond of sharks. You get my drift? Your time is now.
10. Send back a box full of all the crappy stuff he gave you. (Keep the good stuff. Seriously.) Getting rid of it will clear the clutter in your head and give your home better feng shui. Reclaim yourself!
Tina Sharma Tiwari is an Indian author, award-winning sports journalist and prime-time news anchor. During her 15-year-career she has worked as a reporter, anchor, producer and commentator for the best media houses in the country. She has recently authored ‘Who, ME?’ The book makes you question love and relationships. It is available in book stores and Flipkart.com. Buy it here.